It’s never an easy task to place an aging member of your family in a nursing home. Often your relative will make it very clear that they would prefer to remain in their own home, but health conditions such as Alzheimer’s and dementia may result in your loved ones’ wishes being unrealistic. Some health conditions commonly associated with aging require home health care in order for your relative to remain at home, but not all families can afford the cost of hiring a live-in aid and you may not be in a position to stay home and care for your relative yourself.
With the rising cost of living, there are also situations in which it isn’t possible for your relative to continue to afford to live independently on Social Security benefits. Although the cost of a board & care facility varies, the expense is all-inclusive and the services are specifically tailored to meet your relative’s full range of needs including housing, nursing, housekeeping, and meals. However, you will likely be very selective in choosing the best board & care facility to meet your loved one’s needs.
When deciding on the right board & care facility, many people prefer a place that is conveniently located near their relatives. Moving into a facility may be a difficult adjustment, and it is often helpful for your loved one to receive regular visits from family members. Retirement also leaves the elderly with a lot of extra time on their hands, so it’s a good idea to select a facility that offers activities such as Bingo games and crafts to occupy their time and help them to feel as though they are still productive.
While many board and care facilities provide the highest standard of care, it is wise to ensure that the facility is clean, the staff is well-trained, and the meals are tailored to meet your loved one’s nutritional needs. This will help to ensure their safety and security while residing in the facility, and it will also provide you with peace of mind knowing that your relative is being well cared for.
Although placing your loved one in a board and care facility may be heartbreaking at first, and you may very well be presented with objections from your relative, if you choose the right facility, it can end up being a positive experience for both you and your loved one. They will have the opportunity to make friends with other residents, maybe play a game of bridge with their new friends, and even possibly go on outings when appropriate. Additionally, they will be provided with the level of care that they need.
You don’t have to feel guilty about making the best decision for your loved one. Just be sure to write them letters, call every night to talk, and visit them when you can. Board and care facilities can provide an extended family for your loved one, but they will never replace their family. Your relative will always look forward to a visit, but at least you will be able to rest well at night knowing that your relative is in a nice facility where they are being taken care of and where they can enjoy their golden years.